@RickWarren: God will never love you any less or more than he does right now because his love is based on who he IS,not what you’ve done.

What is really important today? 

I have a major “to-do” list.  For today.  And then one for this week.  And then one for 30 days out, 90 days out, and a year out.  That’s too many!  But needed. 

But what is important today is what points me to, and keeps me in line with, what GOD wants for me.  Not what I want to do, or what I think I should do (leaning on my own understanding).  It is purpose driven, based on what GOD’S purpose for me is. 

So the most important list for me today contains one thing. 

One…

Listen. 

Trust and obey.

For there’s no other way.

To be happy in Jesus. 

I need to listen, understand, obey, and act it out.  I need to discern in between all the things flying at me left and right. 

I need to get still and uncluttered.  But if I can’t, I just need to listen to the whisper in amongst the noise. 

Simple to understand; hard to do. 

But if I listen, He will lead me supernaturally in ways I cannot understand.  He leadeth me, O blessed thought!

The way you life your life today is prepariing you for your tomorrow.  The question is, What are you preparing for?  Are you grooming yourself for success or failure?  As my father used to tell me when I was growing up, “You can pay now and play later, or you can play now and pay later.  But either way, you are going to pay.”  The idea was that you can play and take it easy and do what you want today, but if you do, your life will be harder later.  However, if you work hard now, on the front end, then you will reap rewards in the future.

By Dr. John C. Maxwell

The truth is that people who do nothing more than wait for an opportunity won’t be ready to captialize on one if it does appear!  As basketball legend John Wooden says, “When opportunity comes, it’s too late to prepare.”  And for those who receive their wish – of a promotion, start-up money, or anything else – it rarely changes anything in the long term if they haven’t already done all the groundwork to be successful. 

from “Today Matters”  by Dr. John C. Maxwell

7 STEPS TO BECOMING A HAPPY PERSON OTHERS WANT TO BE AROUND

By Michael Hyatt, CEO of Thomas Nelson publishers

Several months ago, my wife, Gail, and I attended an industry mixer at a conference we were attending. Almost immediately, I was cornered by an author who proceeded to complain about all the incompetent people in his life.

He grumbled about his literary agent, his booking agent, and his publisher. No one, it seems, measured up to his standards. I tried to change the subject, but he persisted.

The conversation made me feel very uncomfortable. I finally had enough and excused myself. I felt a little rude, but I didn’t want to steep in his brew of negativity.

As I thought about this, I realized how destructive complaining about others is. My author friend didn’t make me think less of the people he grumbled about; it made me think less of him.

Complaining about others has the potential to hurt you in four specific ways.
1. It trains your brain. I remember when I bought my first Lexus. I never really noticed Lexus cars before. But suddenly, they seemed to be everywhere. This demonstrates the principle that you see more of what you notice. If you focus on people’s faults, you will find even more of them.
2. It makes you miserable. My author friend was not happy. His humor was biting and sarcastic. He seemed entitled and discontent. His attitude was highly toxic—which was why I felt the need to get away from him. He was contagious!
3. People pull away. One of the consequences of complaining is that healthy people don’t want to hang around you. They avoid you. As a result, you miss scores of great opportunities, both social and business ones.
4. People don’t trust you. This is perhaps the saddest consequence of all. As my friend was complaining about others, I began to wonder, What does he say about me when I am not around. I then instinctively thought, I don’t trust him.

After I left the presence of my negative friend, I bumped into an agent friend, who is one of the most positive, encouraging people I know. He told me about all the great things happening in his life and business.

Whenever he mentioned someone’s name, he raved about them. He exuded gratitude. I didn’t want to leave his presence. It was like balm to my soul.

My second friend was such a contrast to the first, it made me realize these are two entirely different mindsets and approaches to life. The good news is that if you are a negative person, you don’t have to stay that way.

Here are seven steps to reversing this pattern and becoming a happy person others trust and want to be around.
1. Become self-aware. Are you a negative person? Do you tend to see the glass half empty or half full? If you are in doubt, ask your spouse or a close friend for candid feedback. Negativity is costing you more than you know. Frankly, it’s like having bad breath or b.o.
2. Assess your needs. What need are you attempting to meet by complaining? Perhaps the need for connection? Maybe a need for significance? Are there better, more healthy ways to meet these needs?
3. Decide to change. Complaining is a habit. And like all bad habits, change begins when you own your behavior and make a decision to change. It doesn’t have to be a long, drawn out process. It will take conscious effort at first, but it will become automatic over time. You can start today.
4. Shift your identity. The most powerful change happens when we modify our identity. When I declared myself an athlete, daily exercise suddenly became easier. What if you said to yourself, I am a positive, encouraging person? How would your behavior change?
5. Greet others with a smile. According to health expert Ron Gutman, “smiling can help reduce the level of stress-enhancing hormones like cortisol, adrenaline, and dopamine, and increase the level of mood-enhancing hormones like endorphins.” While smiling has this impact on you, it also has a similar impact on others. This is one reason they unconsciously want to be around you.
6. Catch them doing something right. The corollary to the principle “you see more of what you notice” is “you get more of what you notice. If you catch people doing what is right and complement them for it, guess what happens? They start doing more of it. This is not manipulation; it is influence. It too is contagious.
7. Speak well of others. I’m not saying you shouldn’t deal with bad behavior by confronting it. I’m saying you should deal directly with the people involved rather than complaining about it to those who are neither part of the problem nor part of the solution. Your mama’s advice was right: “If you don’t have something positive to say, don’t say anything at all.”

While complaining about others may hurt them, ultimately it hurts you the worst. By becoming more aware and more intentional, you can become a person others seek out and want to be around.

“You will never change your life until you change something you do daily.  You see, success doesn’t just suddenly occur one day in someone’s life.  For that matter, neither does failure.  Each is a process.  Every day of your life is merely preparation for the next.  What you become is the result of what you do today.”  John Maxwell in “Today Matters”

“To discover what you really believe, pay attention to the way you act — and to what you do when things don’t go the way you think they should. Pay attention to what you value- how you spend your time, your money and the way you eat. Pay attention to the way you treat people who have nothing to give you in return. Pay attention to who you are when no one knows who you are. Pay attention to how much time you devote to what you claim is most important to you.”

Who you are plays out in the way you act.  The things you actually do.  Who we are is not who we want to be, it’s who we determine ourselves to be on a daily basis. 

Good Decisions – Daily Discipline =   A Plan without a Payoff

Daily Discipline – Good Decisions = Regimentation without Reward

Good Decisions + Daily Discipline = A Masterpiece of Potential!

“Most people don’t lead their own lives – they accept their lives.”  John Kotter

Make your own life a good one today!!!

What happens when life gets in the way of Life? When our schedules dictate to us instead of us dictating our schedules?

Each morning, start with a Priority Time – a time to meditate on Truth and to re-establish your values and priorities. Determine what is important . . . versus what is only urgent today. Do your best in getting through the urgent things, so you can focus and LIVE in the important . God’s Spirit and God’s Word will help you do this!

When you’re wrong, admit it … And when you’re right, keep it quiet.

Seize the day – seize the year! “You will change your entire life if you change one small thing that you do every day,”. Dr. John C. Maxwell. May God help you to do it!